The Five Love Languages
Thanks to JC’s Atoti for this.
The Five Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman, a “seasoned marriage counselor [who] says people feel most loved in a marriage in one of five ways: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.”
Quality Time refers to spending time together as a couple. People who have this as their love language feel loved when they are taken out on special dates, when their spouse clears the calendar for them, or when the television is turned off in order to have a conversation.
Others prefer Words of Affirmation as a way to be shown love. Telling your spouse how you appreciate them, encouraging them, and general words of praise and acceptance all show your love.
If Gifts is your spouse’s love language, then you need to understand that for them, gifts are not simply material objects — they are expressions of your love.
If your spouse’s love language is Acts of Service, they will appreciate your help more than anything. Give them a night off from cooking or other household chores. Repair that leaky faucet. Help them with the yard work. Prepare them a nice lunch to take to work.
Some people prefer Physical Touch as their love language. A simple touch on the arm, hug or backrub will convey your love to them.
Above from familyfirst.net
The following is a test that will help you determine your primary and secondary love languages.
GreaterQuest - 5 Love Languages Quiz
My results are as follows:
- 9 - Physical Touch
- 8 - Quality Time
- 6 - Words of Affirmation
- 4 - Receiving of Gifts
- 3 - Acts of Service
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Feb 22nd, 2005 at 04:26:18
Mine were:
Score Love Language
5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
8 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch
Chris I am sad to see you are not up at 4:30 in the morning at least you are not online
Im going back to bed now.
Feb 22nd, 2005 at 10:27:11
this is a pretty interesting quiz. i got:
10 physical touch
9 quality time
5 words of affirmation
3 acts of service
3 receiving of gifts
Feb 22nd, 2005 at 10:31:38
I’m glad you found more info on it. I looked a little bit but not for long. After all I have read the original book and heard him speak twice and got notes from a thrid session. I think this is something that is helpful not just in a marriage, but in general. The first session I heard him talk about was loving children. I took 2.5 pages of notes on it! It was amazing! I think everyone who will have children should read that book. Anyway, I just want to say I think it’s a worthwhile thing to look into.
Feb 22nd, 2005 at 14:23:41
Score Love Language
5 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
4 Receiving of Gifts
5 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch
I thought I would have scored higher on teh gift one
but i felt guilty cause it seemed like every other question had a “hey give me a present” feel to it.
Feb 22nd, 2005 at 14:34:41
He’re my score:
8 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
7 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch
Feb 22nd, 2005 at 16:56:27
I have this book, but haven’t gotten around to reading it yet. Here are my scores:
Score Love Language
6 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
4 Receiving of Gifts
1 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch